Video: What should you do? (Conflict Resolution Advice)
Part 1:
Q: If I’ve observed someone being harassed, what should I do?
A: Even though our initial tendency is to want to think “That’s not my problem”, we all have a responsibility to speak up when we witness disrespectful behaviour. So I would encourage you to be mindful of your own safety first, and if it seems to be appropriate, approach the person who’s being impacted by somebody else’s disrespectful behaviour, and offer them your support. You may also want to say something to the person who’s been exhibiting the disrespectful behaviour, by letting them know how you felt when you saw or heard what they did. I would encourage you to write down what you’ve witnessed, as well, and bring any concerns that you may have to any respected member of the Saskatchewan Polytechnic community.
Q: If I’m being harassed, what should I do?
A: One thing I know for sure is that procrastination is not a good strategy when we are experiencing harassment or disrespectful behaviour. So I would encourage you to take some time to think about what is bothering you, what behaviours you need to name with the other person, how you might like to say that to the other person. And then book a time with them to approach them, so that you can raise your concerns with them. If you feel uncomfortable doing that, I would encourage you to talk to your instructor or your supervisor, or come and see the conflict resolution facilitator. I would also encourage you to document how things have been from your experience.
Part 2:
Q: What if I’m accused of harassment or discrimination by someone?
A: Well, my first advice would be to take a breath and try not to get defensive. Defensiveness is a pretty common reaction, but in the long run, it won’t help solve the problem. Instead, listen to what is being said, and if, in fact, you did not intend to be offensive, but you were, apologize. Stop what you are doing, and try to avoid repeating the behaviour in the future. It’s also important to write down your view of the situation, and share that with a conflict resolution facilitator. That way, you’ve got a written record of what has occurred from your perspective, should it go to a formal complaint process.
Q: What if I’m falsely accused?
A: Well, false accusations are considered to be a serious matter by Saskatchewan Polytechnic, subject to discipline. So if you believe you’ve been falsely accused, write down what was said, and contact the conflict resolution facilitator. You’re not alone here.